Blog
Spiritual Direction Without By-Passing (Part 4): Growing Our Window of Tolerance
active listening
kasey hitt
spiritual bypassing
spiritual direction
window of tolerance
Mar 17, 2026
Continue Reading...
A few weeks ago, my college-age daughter shared with me that something I had said to her in sixth grade had become part of her inner critic.
She told me that whenever a paper or project was assigned, she would hear my voice in her ear asking if she had been working on it. That voice pushed her alre...
Categories
All Categories abby buter oakhart ableism active listening amy lyles wilson amy steele angels ann kline annika gordon around the world celebrations ash wednesday awe belovedness beth bernard blessing body awareness body image book suggestion breaking bread broken-hearted burden candles centering prayer chaos charlie mackesy children's books christianity today christine valters paintner chuck wester cindy lee circle collective communion community competition confession conflict connection contemplative practice creation creation care creative writing creativity dark dark night of the soul darrell arnett december desert fathers digital responsibility discernment divine indwelling dreams dreamwork elizabeth barret browning emily askew examen exploration faith feast day forgiveness geocashing giving goodness gratitude grief healing heaviness holiday season holy adventure holy hospitality holy mystery holy waiting holy week hope horseshoes hurricane helene hymns images of god inner beauty inner life intercessory prayer internal family systems jesus jill wright job opening jonathan mayberry journey julian of norwich justice kali kasey hitt katie rea kindness lament laura huff hileman learning management systems legacy lent light litugy liturgical year loneliness love mary oliver maundy thursday meditation melody diehl mentor mirrors mission mountains mourning mystics nancy rogers online community online education original goodness original sin outer beauty palm sunday partswork peace people-first language perfectionism pickleball pilgrimage poem poetry powerlessness prayer psalms rabbi rami reflection rememberance remembering resilience rest retreat retreats rituals robbie pinter ryan given cleave sacred invitation sacred space safe space saint lucia day sdi self-discovery self-recovery silence simplicity simplify sin spaciousness spiritual bypassing spiritual coercion spiritual direction spiritual direction training spiritual formation spiritual growth spiritual journeys spiritual practice spiritual seekers spiritual writing spirituality st. lucia stillness strength swaady martin table fellowship teamwork tech support teresa blythe thanksgiving the last supper the woman at the well thirsting for god thomas merton transformation trauma-informed spiritual direction ubuntu vocation walk for peace weakness wendell berry window of tolerance wintersolstice wisdom wisdom tree wednesday wonder wrestling writing wtc wtc graduate wtc instructors